By Sue Scheff with Melissa Schorr

Foreword by Monica Lewinsky
“You are one single keystroke away from your life being destroyed”—Sue Scheff 

In SHAME NATION, leading internet safety expert and author Sue Scheff will document how cyber-shaming has become the national pastime—and what we can do about it. Whether from trolling, revenge porn, sexting scandals, email hacks, or cyber-lynchings, it is clear we are all vulnerable to digital disaster.

  • 73% of American adults have witnessed online harassment, and 70% of young Americans say they have been victims themselves — Pew Research Center
  • Experts predict that as many as 40% of all Americans will be digitally shamed — Hate Crimes in Cyberspace
  • 1 in 3 adults admit to sharing sexual images without their partners permission
  • 81% of researchers predict trolling to get worse in the future. PEW Research Center 2017

Every day, with the thousands of tweets, posts and images we mindlessly share, we are putting ourselves at risk of suffering permanent damage to our reputations, our careers, and our futures.

  • 33% of young adults say they have sent or posted a sexually suggestive photo of themselves — The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy
  • 70% of employers today will screen potential candidate’s social media before interviewing them. – CareerBuilders 2018
  • 75% of colleges will monitor applicants social media behavior prior considering them. –AACRAP 2018

Drawing from the expertise of more than a dozen top experts spanning fields including legal, public relations, crisis management, psychology, cyberbullying, and online reputation management, SHAME NATION presents:

  • The alarming rise in frequency and severity of online attacks
  • The psychology behind mob mentality, anonymous attacks, shaming and more
  • The meager protections our current legal system offers for victims to fight back
  • How to avoid the online blunders that put you at risk
  • How to protect yourself (and others) from online attacks
  • How to handle a cyber-disaster should one occur
  • The real professional, psychological and technical challenges of recovering from an attack
  • Specific proposals for dismantling Shame Nation: advocating for cyberbullying laws and ramping up enforcement; pressuring tech companies to improve community standards; and emphasizing digital citizenship for people of all ages (it’s not just kids, folks!)

SHAME NATION: Choosing kindness and compassion in an age of cruelty and trolling cites the latest research on online behavior, using images from surveys, studies and infographics, plus offer examples of digital shaming from tweets, Facebook posts, emails, and more. Using firsthand experiences, we will learn how to prevent, survive and overcome virtual disasters if they happen to you or a loved one.

Today, your online behavior is an extension of your online reputation.

No one is immune

Just because you are a celebrity, doesn’t mean you don’t have the same feelings and emotions as average people. When actresses like Renee Zellweger, Demi Lovato, Amy Schumer, Ashley Judd, Iggy Azalea or Anne Hathaway are put through the Google rinse cycle they come out with the same scars that you would. They may have publicists to help hold them up, or deeper financial pockets, but the emotional wounds bleed the same.

What can learn from celebrity shaming? In chapter 4 we cover a lot!


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Book Clubs

Are you a member of a book club? Shame Nation is a great opportunity to discuss the corrosion of humanity online and ways to build empathy, increase your self-awareness (offline) and improve your digital wisdom.

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Praise for Shame Nation:

Filled with compelling and relatable stories, interviews and quotes from celebrities and experts, and practical strategies, expert Sue Scheff’s new book powerfully portrays the all-too-real phenomenon of online shame.  Either it has happened to us, or to someone we care about – and so much of what is conveyed connects immediately and viscerally with the reader.  But there are solutions, and there is hope – as she explains.  Take the time to read it.  –Dr. Sameer Hinduja, Co-Director of the Cyberbullying Research Center


“In a world where pronouncements of 140 characters are the rule of the day, where impersonal combatants wage daily war on civility, and where our attention span lasts no longer than a Snap, Shame Nation is a must-read for everyone. From Baby Boomers to Millennials, social media is a societal game-changing phenomena impacting our family, friends, communities, education, politics and employment. In a refreshingly objective and non-judgmental style, Sue Scheff analyzes this new digital reality and how it has quickly come to redefine how we view privacy, acceptable behavior, reputation, and opportunity in the 21st century. Sue astutely maps where we are and then takes us on the path towards recovery and digital rejuvenation.” –Alan Katzman, Founder of Social Assurity LLC


“To create a kinder and more tolerant society each of us must do our part. This incredible work by Sue Scheff illustrates why – and more importantly – how! Shame Nation isn’t just a must read for all parents and teachers, but for every human that desires a more thoughtful and empathetic community in our global village.”  –Richard Guerry, author and Executive Director of The Institute for Responsible Online and Cellphone Communication


Smart. Timely. EssentialShame Nation is the era’s “must read” to renew internet civility where humiliating, criticizing and judging are normalized. And there is no one better than Sue Scheff to share how to prevent as well as rebound from digital shaming. Her own battle against cyber-shaming riveted the world and changed the way we use the Internet. Scheff’s sage advice and realistic tips for cyber-etiquette are indispensable and must be heeded for any hope of a civil existence and restoring empathy in cyberspace.” –Michele Borba, Educational Psychologist and bestselling author of UnSelfie


“Relatable, intelligent, and engaging from the first sentence, Shame Nation sheds much-needed light on our current culture of online shaming and cyberbullying. Thoroughly researched and packed with eye opening anecdotes, Shame Nation will help you learn why people choose to shame one another online, and what to do if it happens to you or a loved one. Sue Scheff is an invaluable resource in the digital world and this book should be required reading in high school, college, and the workplace.” -Katie Hurley, LCSW author of No More Mean Girls and The Happy Kid Handbook


Shame Nation is a terrific parenting resource, one that combines real-life cautionary tales with practical solutions for every scenario. This is a must-read in the digital age for anyone who has an internet presence especially as teens are generally more vulnerable to cyber shaming.” –Your Teen Magazine


“A leading expert in the digital world, Scheff offers the latest insight as to why people publicly shame each other and will equip readers with the tools to protect themselves from what has now become the new Scarlet Letter.” – Ross Ellis, founder and CEO of STOMP Out Bullying


“We all have the power to create the inclusive Internet reality that we so desperately need. Scheff recognizes that participating in that creation can be overwhelming and intimidating, especially given the personal risks we face as women who want to join a public discourse, and provides in Shame Nation a clear-eyed, approachable guide to facing a hostile online environment while maintaining our dignity and sanity.” – Emily Lindin, Founder and Director of The UnSlut Project


“This book offers readers an important and eye-opening exploration into how public shaming transforms lives in the digital age. By humanizing today’s digital interactions, Scheff and Schorr show readers how to recognize, protect, and, when needed, restore their digital identity.” – Stacey Steinberg, Legal Skills Professor, University of Florida Levin College of Law  


Shame Nation is a book that illustrates the harm our culture of shame can wreak when we fail to instill a sense of empathy and kindness. Sue Scheff’s advice, couched in examples from current events, has already changed the way I approach social media. Her words have caused me to stop, think, and approach my online relationships from a place of respect, even when I’m angry or apt to reach for the keyboard in retribution for a perceived slight. Shame Nation is a practical and helpful book that forges a way forward through the gauntlet of social media and online shaming while encouraging an ethical approach to an increasingly judgmental world.” – Jessica Lahey, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Failure 


Shame Nation holds that elusive key to stopping the trend of online hate so kindness and compassion can prevail.” ― Rachel Macy Stafford, New York Times bestselling author of Hands Free Mama, Hands Free Life, and Only Love Today


Engaging, sharp, and important – SHAME NATION will inspire you to open your eyes and be better in society’s growing cyber culture.” – Theresa Payton, CEO of Fortalice Solutions and Deputy Director of Intelligence on CBS’ Hunted


“This is a timely book that sheds light on the underbelly of online hate and shows how we can learn from the experiences of others to address it and support one another in promoting a culture of kindness and dignity–both online and offline.”  – Trudy Ludwig, Children’s Advocate and author of The Invisible Boy


“Shame Nation is chock full of cautionary tales. The message? No one is immune from online public scrutiny (or worse). Scheff catalogs many of the high profile instances of online shame; but digs deeper to uncover causes, consequences, and ways to counteract cruelty online. Read this book to equip yourself with tools to reduce the likelihood that you will be targeted by online trolls. And if you are? This book gives you the playbook to fight back. With insights shared in this book, you will have power once again.” Dr. Justin Patchin, co-director of Cyberbullying Research Center


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