Parent shaming, judgy moms and adults acting badly


Rise of incivility

As I continue to write about bullying and cyberbullying, it never ceases to amaze me how many different ways people have discovered to hate others — whether it is on the playground or virtually, peer cruelty doesn’t seem to have any limits or boundaries.

The irony of it is we read so much about youth bullying, and I don’t want to diminish that it is an important issue — but the fact is adults are not only victims of harassment, they can be the perpetrators too.   Yes, the very people that should be our children’s role models (sports figures, celebrities, politicians, teachers, elders, etc… people we should respect) can be the direct people that are acting like children online or otherwise.

We have heard the stories of fat shaming, face shaming, parent shaming (moms judging moms), baby shamingcyber-shaming and this year I read more about the ugliness of slut shaming (from adults).

Most of us remember the tragic incident at the Cincinnati Zoo when 17 year-old gorilla Harambe was shot and killed by zoo personal after a 3 year-old boy crawled into his environment.

It was a tragic accident, but thankfully the toddler is okay. Sadly the gorilla is dead. Animal activist were angry and set social media on fire.

But it’s more than about the death of a gorilla — it’s about insulting, judging and humiliating a mother who is already probably feeling a million pounds of guilt on her shoulders.

It was parent shaming — in full-force!

Short-term gratification, long-term ramifications

We’re living in a culture where we aim and shame instantly without considering the truth or consequences. How many of us have had those parenting oops moments and are grateful they aren’t memorialized on social media? How many of us are perfect parents?

Before you use your keystrokes to shame or insult someone — pause and think about yourself. Are you so perfect?

It’s time we start bringing empathy back into our culture. With empathy it’s almost impossible to be cruel to each.

When it comes to parent shaming, there are no winners.


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